Rhode Island. The smallest state in the continental United States. There are both pros and cons that come with this. You can get to anywhere in the state within an hour which is really convenient. (You probably don’t really appreciate this if you haven’t traveled much.) There aren’t a lot of job opportunities and things of that nature. But there’s one thing about living in Rhode Island that can be both a pro and a con. Everybody knows everybody! With social network usage at an all-time high, we have found a way to make the smallest state in the country even smaller. That being said everybody’s business, whether true or not, is common knowledge in the state. This usually includes how many people a person has been with romantically.
Which brings me to this question: Does A ‘Body Count’ Really Matter?
I always see the criteria for the perfect imaginary partner to only have one or two sexual partners, in which none of them are our acquaintances. The key word here is imaginary because the world we live in, more specifically the state we live in, makes it almost impossible to find someone who meets all these standards.
Let’s say you find someone you have a real connection with and can see yourself building a future with. Is the fact that they have a certain number of sexual numbers prior to you a deal breaker? If so, how do you determine that number? Does it matter who it was? Would you want to know?
If you are planning on building something serious with someone have to feel comfortable in every aspect. In no way would I ever tell you how you should feel or what your standards for a partner should be. My only question is how much of ones past do we take into account when trying to build a future? I know guys that have slept with 100 women but claim they don’t want a woman with more than five previous sexual partners. I know women who claim they don’t want a man that every woman has had, but the same woman has slept with multiple people from the same social circle.
Let’s take it a step further. Why would it matter? If you meet someone that you’re happy with in the present, how could digging into the past benefit you. No one wants to look like a fool, but at the same time, wouldn’t that be allowing other people to determine your happiness? A wise man once told me “don’t go looking for questions you don’t want the answers to.” Would it then make me insecure for allowing this information to hold so much weight over my decision? All that being said, I would be lying if I said a part of me wouldn’t want to know.
As we grow older we start to look at things differently. Financial stability, responsibility and accountability are just a few factors that get looked at when looking for a partner as opposed to how good they look or how popular they are. So again I’ll ask how important is a person’s past when deciding to be in a relationship? Would you want to know?
I’ll let you decide.